The word ‘Pain’ sounds familiar to us, not only the physical one but also the psychological one, the later even more so. Psychological pain is an inevitable part of being human and Life. Paradoxically, we being humans found it more difficult, shameful and embarrassing to talk about it than talking about sex. We find it extremely difficult to be vulnerable in front of another person, to be seen, to express the pain flowing in our vessels, circulating through the tissues, penetrating our cells, to scream out of its intensity, to cry, to accept its presence. But why is that so? Maybe because its a Taboo to talk about psychological pain, maybe because it is considered the domain of weak individuals who cannot bear life’s burden and complaint about it rather than staying strong and composed to the level of suppression, repression and perhaps insensitivity. But fortunately in past decades psychological pain is gaining attention scientifically and research has proven its authenticity and its value as an indicator of ‘not well’ and requiring its acceptance and paying attention to it for healing psychologically thus moving towards ‘health and wellness as a whole’
Besides its authentic place, psychological pain needs to be differentiated from suffering which often results subsequently from the prior but unnecessarily alot of times. It originates when we perpetuate our pain ourselves by focusing and thinking on negative aspect of the situation or the matter at hand, by seeing the half glass empty and sometimes by making the situation negative even when it is not. But where does this negativity stems from? Could be from fears and anxieties of being vulnerable, being imperfect, being behaving dumb and doing embarrassing things, all of which ultimately stems from ‘lack of self love’ when we are ‘not able to love ourselves’ and accept ourselves as imperfect, flawed creatures we are, not trying to be perfect, to forgive ourselves more often for minor mistakes and rectifying them and repenting the bigger ones. To be kind to ourselves. To have unconditional positive regard for ourselves. Basis of this unconditional positive regard and ‘Self Love’ is strongly rooted in teaching children self love as part of parenting process and valuing the healing journey later in life and seeking the path to self discovery and finding meaning and purpose in our lives which could be the only means to transcend the pain and suffering which life inflict on us.

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